Friendships: The Artichoke of Life
You might be wondering, "What does the topic of friendships have to do with Family Choices for Dementia, a senior living consulting service?" Well, it’s pretty relevant! Many caregivers and seniors who have lost a loved one or are navigating life after caregiving find themselves isolated and struggling to make new connections. This blog offers some friendly advice on navigating the world of friendships at any age and why it’s worth the effort.
Friendships Through the Ages
Remember when making friends was as easy as playing tag or trading baseball cards? Those were elementary school days when you could knock on a friend’s door to start a new adventure. In high school, friendships blossomed through sports, clubs, and maybe the occasional note passed under the desk (yes, I got in trouble for that!). College and the early years of adulthood bring new friends through work in your spouse’s social circle, and many often find themselves becoming friends with their children's friends' parents. But as we age, maintaining friendships can be more challenging. The playgrounds and school corridors become retirement communities and senior centers, and the ease of forming new connections seems to dwindle. However, it doesn’t have to be as complicated as it looks. Friendships can still thrive, even in the later stages of life, if we put in some effort and creativity.
Friendships: The Artichoke Analogy
Think of friendships like an artichoke. On the outside, you have acquaintances—those friendly faces you recognize but don’t know well. Next, you have closer friendships, the ones you share more with, who are more reliable. And at the core, you have your most cherished friends—the ones who know you inside out and support you through thick and thin.
The Layers of Friendship
The Outer Layers (Acquaintances):
Example: You call this friend to share that you've been up with a loved one all night. They might respond with, "Oh, I’m so sorry. I hope things get better!" They’re sympathetic but don’t have the depth of your situation.
The Middle Layers (Close Friends):
Example: This friend might say, "That sounds tough. How can I help?" They offer practical support and are willing to lend a hand, but they’re not as involved in your daily life.
The Core (Best Friends):
Example: This friend might say, "I’m here for you. Let’s talk or grab a coffee. I’ve been through something similar and want to support you however I can." They offer emotional support and are deeply involved in your life.
Making Friends as You Age
It’s never too late to make new friends or reconnect with old ones. Here are some tips for creating and maintaining friendships as you grow older:
Join Local Groups: Participate in community activities, clubs, or classes that interest you.
Volunteer: Giving back to the community can introduce you to like-minded individuals.
Use Social Media: Join Facebook groups or online forums related to your interests.
Attend Church Services: Attending church activities can help you connect with others who share your values.
Try Game Nights: Host or attend game nights or trivia events to meet new people.
Pick Up a Sport: Join a tennis, pickleball, or golf league to meet people while staying active.
The Benefits of a Healthier Life Through Social Engagement
Engaging socially isn’t just a pleasant way to pass the time—it’s also crucial for a healthy, fulfilling life. Here’s how maintaining a vibrant social life enhances your overall well-being:
Improved Mental Health: Reduces feelings of loneliness and depression and stimulates cognitive function.
Increased Physical Health: Lowers stress levels, improves heart health, and boosts the immune system.
Enhanced Emotional Well-being: Provides a sense of belonging, increases happiness, and boosts self-esteem.
More muscular Immune System: Better immune response and fewer illnesses.
Longer Life Expectancy: Associated with a lower risk of premature death.
Greater Resilience: Provides emotional support and helps you navigate life’s challenges with more strength.
Enhanced Life Satisfaction: Creates a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
The Big Picture
No matter your age, building and maintaining friendships takes effort. The benefits of a rich social life are numerous and impactful. So, whether you’re a seasoned adult or a young-at-heart retiree, remember: friendships, like artichokes, come in layers. The core is where the magic happens, and with a bit of effort, you can find your way to that core of fulfilling, meaningful connections.
And yes, if you or someone you know is dealing with Alzheimer's disease, reach out. At Family Choices for Dementia, we help families navigate the complexities of dementia care and provide support from diagnosis to finding the right living situation. We offer resources, advice, and guidance to help you through every stage of the journey.
So, go ahead and embrace the artichoke of friendships. Whether adding new layers or reconnecting with old ones, remember that it’s never too late to make new friends and strengthen those core connections.
